Clear It Counselling is a face to face & online relationship counselling service, based in Fernvale QLD Australia. Also, accessible world-wide via online counselling services. Alternative counselling for addictions is also provided by Clear It Counselling.
Relationship counselling covers all types of relationships not just intimate ones! Your relationship with yourself, your co-workers, children, siblings, friends, your pet or even your nana.
Relationships form the basis of all life & therefore determine how satisfying & meaningful our life is! Based on the connection we have with ourselves & others!
Addictions counselling covers more than alcohol or drug addictions! People can be addicted to all sorts of things some would even consider healthy. Like exercise or cleansing for example. Addictions to me are about not only wanting to get away from something, whether it be a feeling, situation or thinking pattern. But addictions can be a way of coping with confusing or overwhelming things. Addictions can also be an attempt to add unto ourselves to fill an internal emptiness or external void.
This is where my focus on toxic shame comes in. The basis I believe of all dysfunctional areas of our lives. To get away from internal feelings of not being good enough!
My alternative style of counselling is for you if are committed to facing the dark areas of your life you have attempted all so hard to hide or supress. If you have a willingness to explore & integrate the memories, you have tried to ignore for a long time. If you have a curiosity about what it is that is keeping you stuck in repetitive & unsatisfying cycles. If you are willing to take responsibility for how you function & show up in your world.
I Cassandra come to you from a space of balance & inner peace. This is the state I would like for you to attain as well. I imagine you may be feeling some turmoil or confusion & hence looking at this web site for some support or clarity to make it all feel alright.
I myself have come to this space of inner peace & balance through a journey over the last twenty years. I come from a past that was rather dysfunctional to say the least. After twenty years of suppressing my difficult & unwanted “negative” emotions with alcohol & other substances. I no longer need to run away from still & quiet moments, due to an inner peace!
My passion & desire is to support individuals to find their own centre, balance & inner peace.
I liken the healing journey as a walk through a dark tunnel with a tiny speck of light at the end. How fast we traverse through this tunnel is based on our commitment, will & dedication. To look at every crevice in that dark, roughly surfaced tunnel. To clean out the debris & rubble. Put in the bin what is no longer needed & keep the useable pieces, to construct a new foundation. For a bright life out of your darkness. A joyous life of integrated awareness, internal peace & contentment.
The old saying the only way out is through attests to my work & lived truth of my own healing journey. It is oh so worth the effort. Feelings are just feelings & not so scary. They well up, dissipate & are gone. We are never given more than we can handle!
So, if you would like to embark on the rewarding journey of integrative awareness with me, I would love to be your co pilot into a meaningful, peaceful, joy filled life!
My intention is to help you change the way you relate to others & yourself. So you will find your relationships becoming energising, meaningful, more satisfying, or just a damn bit easier!
Through the therapeutic process. Awareness of what you do & how you do it will be increased. Along with the generation of new skills. To enable you to act in line with your values, & create satisfying & meaningful relationships, with yourself & others.
HOW I WORK
My belief, is the foundation of all dysfunctional behaviour, is Toxic Shame. Through my work with you, awareness will increase, of the underlying needs, that were never met growing up. With this new awareness, together we will develop a plan. To support you in meeting those needs, so you can heal.
I will also help you to learn new skills & techniques. Enabling you to respond, rather than react. To the challenging & uncomfortable thoughts & feelings, that arise in life. So you can remain calm, & behave like the person you really want to be. In those challenging or triggering situations.
I define toxic shame as:
*that nauseous uneasy feeling one has inside when one stops still
*those nasty, negative & judgemental thoughts that pick on you no matter how successful, thin, rich, kind, patient, giving…………you are
*the inner critic that is never satisfied even with an excellent job
Do you find yourself eating when not hungry, drinking excessively, experiencing addiction or workaholism, exercising excessively, short of temper, or angry & sad for no identifiable reason? These are all symptoms of toxic shame, and trying to cope with the internalised belief, that you are not good enough, and will never be good enough.
Do you find it hard to stop & be because it feels uncomfortable for no reason?
Do you feel essentially defective?
These I believe are all symptoms of Toxic Shame
Addiction to me is about trying to get away from, uncomfortable thoughts & feelings, that arise when we stop still.
Whether it is alcohol, drugs, exercising, eating, arguing……whatever it is. Any dysfunctional behaviour we keep doing, is all an attempt to numb the painful feelings & thoughts that live within. Once we start healing the wounded parts of ourselves. That are causing the uncomfortable thoughts & feelings. They start reducing to a level, where suppression or avoidance with substances or actions, to change our state, is no longer needed. Because we feel essentially OK or even good. Just as we are.
MINDFULNESS & VALUES
I believe values & mindfulness, are key components, for the creation of a Rich Full & Meaningful Life.
Values are like an internal compass. Guiding your engagement with yourself, others & the world. Values reflect what you consider important, meaningful & care about deep down. Mindfulness basically gives us a tool kit, we can utilise in daily life. To help guide our actions, towards our values. For the creation of a Rich Full & Meaningful Life.
MY INTENTION AND PASSION
I am passionate about connecting with people in a heartfelt & healing way. I offer a serene & safe space where you can be nurtured & completely embraced.
I specialise in healing toxic shame & addictions, along with values identification.
For the creation of a Rich, Full & Meaningful life.
In line with your unique vision for yourself.
I Intend To Create A Nourishing Experience Where You Can Thrive, Grow & Bloom
Create Deep & Grounding Roots
That Help You To Be Stable When The Weather Of Life Gets Extreme
RELEASE • LET GO • BE
I have a variety of modalities and qualifications I can utilise as resources to support you in reaching your goals.
I have paper qualifications in
- Psyche K
- Touch for health 1
- Swedish Massage
- Reiki 1
- Kinergetics Certificate 1
- The Perception Trainers Light Workers Course
- Diploma of Counselling
- Bachelor of Social Welfare
- Certificate 4 in Alcohol & Other Drugs
- Gestalt Psychotherapy
- Emotional Anatomy
- ACT (acceptance & commitment therapy) Certificate 1
I also have a keen interest in nutrition & detoxification, & the positive impact a cleansed & nourished body, can have on ones state of mind!
Yet I believe the best qualification is life experience, and ones own triumph over depression and addiction.
I am living testament to the successful transition from addiction and depression to a fulfilling and meaningful life, along with an internal sense of peace and contentment.
The Beauty Hunter
This is what I call myself
Because I want to help you find your inner beauty
The beauty surrounding you in your life &
The beauty you wish to create in your life.
My goal & intention is to help you:
Identify your strengths so that together we can utilise your resources
Discover new resources you didn’t know you had
Develop new resources to propel you forward Into the life of your dreams In line with your values
To create a Rich Full & Meaningful Life
However that may look to you
I excel at identifying peoples inner beauty and strengths
By providing a safe & respectful space
By asking excellent questions to elicit a thinking process
To increase awareness for the creation of an excellent life
By becoming aware of
What you want
What are your unique gifts & talents
Where you want to go
How you want to get there
How you want to be in the world
What you want to stand for in life
What gives your life purpose & meaning
Makes your heart sing
It is important that you & I feel comfortable working together therapeutically, for effective outcomes.
You may contact me for a free 20 minute phone consultation, or brief consultation via email. You can share what it is you are seeking support for, ask me any questions about how I work, and also see if you would like to work with me.
RELEASE • LET GO • BE