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Do Thoughts Create Reality?
Have you ever noticed when you are feeling negative, all actions that make you feel good are suspended? The times in life when you need to pep yourself up, & practice those self-nurturing, good feeling actions & thoughts. You cease doing them all together. I know I still do!
Have you ever noticed how “bummer” thoughts as Reverend Ike calls them, attract more “bummer” thoughts?
When I get angry, I know I still get angry! My automatic thought is “I need to get some junk food”! It used to be “I need to get some alcohol”! Whereas, a more helpful thought would be “I am going for a brisk walk”!
I recently got on another body hate spiral, because my thighs are apparently fat. I mean how can they be slim one day & suddenly become fat overnight. I mean come on. So, what did I do. Instead of exercising, thinking positively & eating my usual healthy & slimming ways. I stopped exercising, ate a bunch of crap that made me feel crap, & even very unlike me, drank litres of coke of all things. I mean this shit is great for cleaning jewellery, not my precious gut lining!
I mean shit doesn’t this speak volumes about how our thoughts create our reality. I started thinking my thighs were fat for the GA zillionth time, BORING. So, I stop exercising, eat fattening shit like chips & drink useless nutrient robbing Coke, all in line with my thoughts “I am fat”. Think fat act fat!!!!
I mean haven’t you noticed this phenomenon. When you are feeling depressed? You feel sad, or lonely or just fed up. So, what do you do? Nothing! Absolutely nothing to change your mood. It is almost like you like wallowing in your shitty internal space. A good excuse to do nothing. It may be uncomfortable but least it seems a good excuse to do nothing.
You don’t move, you don’t listen to music that makes you feel good. You don’t go for a nice walk which is said to be more effective than antidepressant tablets. Or get out into the fresh air & sunshine which is known to boost ones’ mood. You don’t stand in the Wonder Woman power pose, which is known to reduce the stress hormone cortisol. Or practice deep slow breathing.
No, we slump over in front of the computer or sloth on the couch. All the while reducing our respiration & therefore inspiration, creating a negative thought spiral. I mean this is how it is for me anyways!
This is such crazy making behaviour. I have so many tools at my disposal, to change my internal state but when I most need to use them I do not. What is this craziness I ask you? It is almost like I am addicted to feeling less than. Maybe my thirty-year practice at depression is still fighting for its life. Maybe the neuronal or as I like to say neurotic wiring in my brain is still there. Wow neurons that fire together wire together. Mine sure seem wired to re-create negative spirals.
It is almost like I am only allowed a certain quotient of happiness, & then my old programming does something, to bring me back to what I call my uncomfortable comfort zone. You know that space that is miserable to be in, yet you somehow keep ending up back there. The old “I am never drinking again” cos you woke up once again wanting to chew your arm off! Or “I am never overeating again” because being bloated with food makes you feel sick, & was so not worth it. Usually once you’re past the first few mouthfuls the delight of eating disappears! We just forgot, again dammit.
Ok so how do we get out of this crazy making cycle of one step into happiness & three back into misery?
Practice, practice, practice. I know for myself. I can sustain longer & longer periods of happiness. Before I sabotage myself back into a dark mood, or unloving old habit of coping. It is like my quotient for happiness is slowly expanding each & every year. I heal, integrate & increase my self-worth.
Experience has enabled me to feel how good life can be. When I treat myself with loving gratitude, forgiveness, acceptance & ease. Seriously if I do not treat myself this way, life is going to really suck. As it did for the first few decades or so. When my internal dialogue was oh so mean! I do not need an internal bully & dictator to run or ruin my life. I need a loving, patient, kind, benevolent inner teacher to guide my life. I need to speak the sweet words of encouragement & soothing I wish to hear.
I am after all a child of the universe! I am still learning & unlearning!
I need to go easy on myself whilst I master this game of life, or at least attempt to. The nicer my internal dialogue is, the greater my self-esteem. The greater my self-esteem. The greater my loving behaviours, quality of life, words & actions. We treat others how we treat ourselves!
So, if we want to see a world with less cruelty it starts from within.
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