Are you a present centered person soaking up the gifts of the present moment? Or are you a person embroiled in your past by retelling your story over and over and over in your mind? We are human beings, yet led to believe we are human doings, and only of any worth if we achieve!
Have you ever stopped to think about what all your striving is getting you? Why you do what you do? Who or what are you doing it for?
How much of your day is actually spent in the beautiful present moment? I know for me, whenever I am truly present a sense of peace and gratitude washes over me!
The present moment truly is a gift!
It is so easy to go into a fear state worrying about the future, or easily slip into an angry state reflecting on a past unintegrated experience. Yet it is just as easy to slip into a state of peace and calm, by coming back to being truly present in this magical moment.
Our breath is the most vital element for life. Four minutes without air and brain damage starts to occur, followed shortly by death. The breath is such a vital element not only for life, but as a way to ground down and come back to enjoy the gift of the present moment.
A good deep breath enables one to centre and become an observer of rather than reactor to, thoughts and feelings floating around within. Remember that post where I talked about the labelling of thoughts and feelings as “I am feeling sick” as opposed to “I am sick” or “I am feeling angry” as opposed to “I am angry”. One is all encompassing whilst the other enables observation rather than enmeshment!
Self-mastery is a simple thing to do, when one has some tools, but can be quiet challenging in triggering moments!
I define self-mastery as an alchemical process. For example, we suddenly find ourselves immersed in anger at something someone said. The alchemy happens when we can pull back from becoming embroiled in our thoughts, to becoming the observer of our thoughts and feelings. This opens the space for response as opposed to reaction. Sometimes response may not even be needed, just beautiful observation!
This really is a process of mind over matter. If it doesn’t matter you won’t mind it!
I know for me being misunderstood is a massive theme in my life and can quickly cause disaster scenarios in my head! I had some insights recently where I realised that speaking out as a little person literally meant being isolated, shunned and not heard. Death of all support in my life in my little mind. This is the default space I enter any time I felt slightly misunderstood now as an adult! Wow, this is so not how reality is now! Yet my default program literally meant death of support when my words landed in another in an unintended way! What a fantastic realisation, now what do I do with this insight?
This is where the alchemical process comes into play. Being authentic, expressing myself, awareness of ruffling another’s feathers, observing my thought processes and feelings, acknowledging myself, breathing, grounding myself in the present moment. Knowing that I cannot control another’s perception of what I say. The only person I have any power over is myself! Easier said than done, absolutely!
The power of breathing into and grounding ourselves in the present moment. To alchemically transform any state! By observing with curiosity, what is right in front of us, is I believe the key to completing unfinished past business, playing out in the present moment as a mirror. Being a curious observer of the present moment. Can open the doors of our perception to integrate past stories still playing out, so we can finish the chapter and move onto the next chapter!
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