What Am I Here For?
Have you ever contemplated this question? I know I have a multitude of times and more so in recent times! I recently cut back my working hours and find I have so much time on my hands, that I have been contemplating again the existence of my navel. What is it all about, what are we here for?
I know society has programmed us all to some extent to make us believe we are here to procreate and have a husband or wife and 2.3 kids. 1 for yourself, 1 for your partner and 1 for your country. Was a slogan by the Australian Government only a few years back! What a joke as if the planet needs more f…… human doings and consuming’s. We are hardly a society of human beings after all.
I think that is why I have been contemplating the existence of my navel more so lately! Due to having the space and time to BE and contemplate the BIG QUESTION. Maybe this question has no single answer. Maybe an answer based on an individuals’ soul calling can only answer this question in an individual way. In times of being rather than doing!
For me maybe I am weird or maybe not. But I never ever felt clucky or wanted children. I never dreamed of getting married and being with someone till death do you part. How freaking dramatic, to get to the point where you want to kill someone, to enable escape from the chains of marriage. What the, I see marriage as an institution that was invented way back when? Not something I am really interested in researching myself!
From my perception marriage was a way for people to have sex, without being ostracised from society! Because to have sex out of wedlock was seen as a sin and shunned by society!
Now the other massive programming we have is to own a home! Again, the idea of being in servitude for a quarter of a million dollars for an ex housing commission shit box. That needs another 50K spent on it to make it liveable is a joke. Gone are the days of my youth! Where you could buy a condemnable house for 50k, on a decent size block, and slowly renovate and make lovely. This is a tricky one because we all have to live somewhere, pay rent or pay a mortgage.
I know for me as an artist I would love to “own” my own property because I am very artistic and feel stifled living in more temporary accommodation that I rent. Because I cannot really create big art works, because they are too difficult to move when the time comes!
Anyway, this really is getting of track to THE QUESTION!
As stated previously, the souls calling which can only being clarified in moments of BEING RATHER THAN DOING! Will never be heard by most in this society, the way it is structured. With our extremely busy lives, mortgaged up to our eyeballs, with all sorts of pursuits to fill our time.
Granted most people do not want to stop and BE. Even when they can, due to toxic shame! Which leaves them feeling fundamentally flawed and just rotten when they stop still. I know for me I did not stop still for the first thirty or so years, always doing something when sitting. Whether that was Tell Lie Vision, movies, smoking, drinking, reading. It was all just distractions from the self-loathing thoughts running through my head when I was less busy.
So how do we learn to just be in the present, so we can begin to hear our souls calling? By being very very present! Not worrying about the future or ruminating about the past. By focusing on your breathing and your senses! What you can see, hear, touch and feel. Embracing it all, “comfortable and uncomfortable”. Letting what comes up be what it is. To be the observer of our experience.
This is a truly simple yet extremely profound way to BE. We are human beings after all. Here to embrace the gifts of the present moment. Where are you if not here?
Blessings
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